Yesterday Vinod Hindocha told how he was left devastated by the 'insulting' behaviour of his son-in-law Shrien Dewani after his daughter Anni was murdered on her honeymoon in South Africa in 2010.
He revealed how Shrien, who was cleared of murdering Anni after the case against him collapsed, held an insulting 'pizza party' after her death, screamed at the family at Anni's funeral, and tried to cancel her memorial service.
Today in the second instalment of his exposive memoir, as told to MailOnline US correspondent Shekhar Bhatia, Vinod describes his agony at missing the warning signs that suggested his daughter's marriage was in trouble and asks himself why he allowed the wedding to go ahead.
Anni brought home a young man called Shrien to introduce him to around 20 of the Hindocha clan.
She had established that this chap's family were called Dewani and were from Bristol. She also found out that Shrien was approaching the age of 30 and still single. He was well educated and had a good income from the family business called PSP, which operated a number of care homes in the West Country.
Since the introduction and first few meetings he had been wooing my daughter by sending flowers to her desk and home in Stockholm from Bristol.
Anni was a romantic who told her cousins that one day her Prince Charming would walk into her life, and such romantic gestures would have appealed to her. She was being won over and enjoying the attention.
Shrien came to our house on November 27, and joined the 20 family members who had gathered to celebrate Nilam's birthday. That is why I remember the date so clearly.
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Anguished text messages: Anni Dewani, pictured above, sent her cousin messages saying she 'hated' her fiance, and even asked her father Vinod if she was 'ugly' because the couple were not being intimate
Doubts: Vinod Hindocha has told in his memoir how his daughter had serious concerns about marrying Shrien and struggled to make up her mind. The couple, pictured above on their wedding day, had been having rows according to Anni's father
Worries: Anni had confided in her cousin Sneha that she and Shrien were having problems but still decided to go ahead with the wedding. Her father Vinod now wishes he had heeded what he believes were signs that all was not well
'TELL ME WHAT REALLY HAPPENED'
Vinod Dewani used his first TV appearance to urge his son-in-law to tell him what really happened to his daughter on their honeymoon.
Speaking to Good Morning Britain, Vinod said that his daughter had always felt her husband Shrien Dewani was ‘too possessive’ and that she had doubts about marrying him.
Shrien Dewani was accused of arranging the murder his new wife during their honeymoon in South Africa, but the judge decided there were not enough evidence to proceed with a case against him. He has always denied the charges.
On ITV on Thursday morning, Vinod paid tribute to his ‘beautiful’ daughter, and said he believed she went ahead with her wedding to Shrien ‘halfheartedly’.
He said: ‘Anni was a lovely girl, beautiful daughter, well educated, well mannered, big heart, very big heart… She always said ‘he is too possessive’ but then I said, ‘Anni no human being is perfect in this world.’
Describing the call, he said: ‘She said ‘Papa everything is fine, South Africa is beautiful and we have had a nice time’ then she suddenly changed her tone and said ‘Papa I have so much to say to you,’ that’s what she said in Swedish and then I gathered she didn’t want him to know.’
‘Shrien called me from South Africa and said, ‘Dad, I’m sorry I couldn’t take care of your daughter.’ It struck me so hard. I said ‘why are you telling me I could not take care of your daughter, she is not dead yet.’
On the court case following Anni’s death, Vinod said: 'The case is over now but what we have found is three people confessing. They were paid by Shrien to kill Anni and Shrien never took a stand in South Africa. It’s very, very upsetting for us.'
And on what he would say to Shrien today, Vinod said: ‘Today I would ask him, tell me truly, sincerely what really happened. I need him to tell me under oath what really happened.’
Shrien made an immediate impression when he walked in and bowed to touch my wife's feet. He had gained a gold star from the start.
He was handsome with a swathe of dark hair, a cheery smile and was soft spoken, almost to the point that I had to cup my ear to hear him speak.
After some tea and cakes, Anni surprised me when she suggested that Shrien and I spend some time together alone to talk. She whispered to me that I should 'interview him'.
He further surprised me when he addressed me as 'Dad' when I drove around Mariestad, which can never take more than a few minutes.
I pulled my Mercedes on to some land behind the golf course, stopped the ignition and asked him why he had called me that. It wasn't meant as a hostile response in any way but he appeared to be worried and said if he couldn't call me dad he'd have to call me uncle.
'Dad's fine,' I said, realising then that something big was going to happen in Anni's life.
Shrien urged me to ask him anything I liked about his past. I said I was only interested in the future of my daughter.
I told him I knew about his time at Manchester University, his successful health care company and how he had been introduced to my daughter.
He was a stranger to me but he knew my daughter and she liked him. I wasn't sure how close they were, but she had brought him home and that was significant.
I also knew from other family members that he had been engaged once before but the relationship had floundered. I actually didn't care about his past.
That was his life before he met Anni. After all, many young men of his age have had past relationships which have failed. I didn't want the details.
There couldn't be anything he could surprise me with.
'As long as you love her and take care of her and as long as Anni is happy, that is fine with me,' I told him.
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Regrets: Vinod and Nilam Hindocha were taken aback by the speed with which Anni became engaged to Shrien, because they believed he had not actually proposed
Distress: Vinod Hindocha, pictured above with his daughter Anni, was aware she had doubts about marrying Shrien but also believed his daughter had changed her mind and was happy to go ahead with the ceremony
Like sisters: Anni's cousin Sneha, pictured above left with Anni, became angry with Shrien after Anni's death and revealed the couple had had a stormy relationship. She said Shrien had accused Anni of 'acting like a tramp' by carrying a plastic bag
Physical difficulties: Anni's father Vinod now believes his daughter was trying to hint that the couple were having problems with intimacy by asking him 'am I ugly'?
It was almost as if he wanted me to delve into his background and help him reveal something which had been bothering him.He seemed a bit taken aback and repeated the question of whether I wanted to know about his past.
It was almost as if he wanted me to delve into his background and help him reveal something which had been bothering him.
I told him that everybody had a past and that we needed to look forward not backwards. I had no suspicions at all. Why would I?
Anni is engaged... but Shrien hadn't even proposed and she hadn't said yes
Months passed by since Anni's first visit home with Shrien. We did not see or really hear of him again.
It was only after Christmas and the New Year holidays were over that Anni made one of her regular telephone calls to her mother.
That's when she announced she and Shrien were going strong and had become a couple.
I was happy though to receive a call soon after from Shrien's father Prakash, who introduced himself.
Prakash seemed an amiable type and I took to him immediately. He kindly invited Nilam and me to visit them with Anni in Bristol and I agreed.
When the time came for us to leave, what happened left us, as well as Anni, absolutely shell-shocked.
Near to collapse: Anni's father Vinod describes how he nearly fainted when hearing claims in court, later abandoned, that Shrien Dewani had ordered the murder of his daughter. The trial later collapsed.
Grieving: Anni's family visit the spot near to where she was killed in a botched carjacking during her honeymoon with new husband Shrien
Nervous breakdown: Shrien Dewani, pictured at his extradition hearing in May 2011, was accused by South Africa of hiring a hitman to murder his 28-year-old wife Anni. He was later cleared after the judge abandoned the trial.
Anni: A Father's Story, by Vinod Hindocha as told to DailyMail.com US correspondent Shekhar Bhatia, is published by Mirror Books on Friday
Shrien's family presented us with a large silver dish, a thali, stuffed with fruits and nuts and with a bronze Ganesh statue placed in the middle. They congratulated us.
This type of gift is traditionally presented in Hindu culture when a betrothal has been agreed between two parties. Had I missed something?
We were confused as we had never even talked about an engagement with Anni, let alone with the Dewanis.
Being the type of good-natured woman she is, and not wanting to risk offending our hosts, Nilam accepted the thali. She thought Anni must have known this was coming and didn't want to embarrass her in front of her future in-laws.
It was evident the Dewanis were not short of money and were all educated and upstanding people. But I wanted to be approached in the proper way by Shrien, not like this.
I could see she wasn't convinced, just by the way she shrugged her shoulders.
We didn't know what was the right thing to say. Then Anni simply said: 'I like him… I don't love him… Oh, I don't know.' She was as confused as we were about the whole situation.
Her indecision kept bothering me. Shrien's father was on the phone as soon as I entered the house [back in Sweden] and the tone of his entire conversation was as if everything had been agreed and it was all going to end with the marriage.
It was a conversation which would change all our lives.
The call didn't last long and I found myself somehow giving the impression that it was agreed.
The next call was to Anni. She responded with the words: 'Papa, I don't know what to do.'
How did I miss the signs that my beloved daughter was unhappy?
One night in early May when I was having difficulty sleeping – it stays light until such a late hour and the sun rises so early at that time of the year in Sweden – Anni called. She wanted to tell me some news. She'd decided she was going to marry Shrien after all.
However, there were rumours that there were issues between them – at what was supposed to be the happiest time in their lives.
I heard that Anni had been describing him to Sneha as 'a Hitler.' After one particular row she told him not to regard her as a possession, threatening to leave him and return to Sweden.
I heard that Anni had been describing him to Sneha as 'a Hitler.' After one particular row she told him not to regard her as a possession, threatening to leave him and return to Sweden.More worryingly, Anni had confided in her cousins that Shrien had asked her to provide him with a monthly Excel spreadsheet of her spending. He wanted to keep a check on what she was buying and felt he should monitor the amount she spent.
What happened to plain, simple romance?
I also heard that, in addition to watching her expenditure, Shrien wanted her to fold her clothes away each night like he did and to keep everything tidy.
Another time, Shrien had reprimanded Anni for carrying her items in a plastic bag in London's Oxford Street and accused her of 'acting like a tramp'. The manufacture and material of the bag had embarrassed Shrien.
He was becoming very controlling and treating her like a child.
I just put all these problems down to pre-wedding nerves and having to be the focus of attention for so many people from two large families.
'Controlling': While Shrien struggled with the court process, Anni's father Vinod describes how her cousin revealed the couple had had a volatile relationship and that Shrien had tried to make Anni keep a record of her spending and accused her of acting 'like a tramp'
Devastated: Ami Denborg, Anni's sister, pictured after the extradition hearing for Shrien Dewani, felt that the family had not received justice after the trial was abandoned
Close: Sisters Ami and Anni had enjoyed preparing for the wedding but Ami believes Shrien 'disrepected' her sister after the death
Shrien is revealed as a suspect... How could I have let her marry that man?
Towards the end of November, 2010, messages were reaching me from Cape Town that the police had begun to question Shrien's account of what happened. I honestly did not know what to think.
The detectives appeared to be making progress and Shrien's name being mentioned in such questionable terms was something we would never have imagined.
Chief prosecution lawyer Rodney de Kock, a man of small frame but incredible confidence and experience, accused Shrien of paying to have Anni murdered.
His theory was that Shrien had enlisted Zola Tongo to help stage the hijacking of the taxi and two killers had been hired to shoot her.
I was utterly astonished to hear Mr de Kock say that Tongo had visited Shrien at the Cape Grace to collect part of his payment for helping stage the hit at the same time I was there during the few days after the shooting.
I could not get my head around any of it.
Effectively, it seemed to me what the police were saying was that we had married Anni off to a killer who took her life less than two weeks after he became her husband.
For me, after Anni's death, if this allegation was true, it was the biggest disaster we could face.
I know that 99.999 per cent of fathers would give their lives for their daughters. Instead, had I been responsible for endangering her?
If Shrien was complicit in Anni's death then the fault also lay at my feet. Why had I not stopped this union?
Anni was unhappy and I had not been able to read the signs.
Struggling: Shrien Dewani, pictured in the Cape Town High Court, was accused of masterminding the murder of his newly-wed wife, Anni, in a staged hijacking, in Gugulethu, a poor township, about 20km from the city centre, in November 2010. He was cleared after the judge ruled there was no case to answer
Well-to-do family: Vinod Hindocha described how the Dewani family welcomed him but felt Anni had been rushed into marriage. Prakash Dewani, Shrien's father, is pictured centre
Freed: Shrien Dewani was pictured leaving Cape Town on December 9 after the case against him collapsed
'I don't want to marry him... I'm going to be unhappy for the rest of my life'
Shrien's attitude and strange behaviour in the few days we had together in South Africa and now in London had concerned Anni's cousin Sneha. His insensitive behaviour regarding Anni's coffin was the final straw for her and she said she had to speak to us urgently.
Sneha, ever loyal to Anni, had been keeping secret much of the edgy stuff that had been going on between my daughter and Shrien while they were in Mumbai for the wedding.
The more Sneha disclosed, the more my concerns grew.
My niece talked about how Shrien had refused to be intimate with Anni. It was uncomfortable to hear. Sneha said he had attempted to have sex but there were problems. It made Anni believe he didn't find her attractive.
I recalled her asking me if she was ugly. Was this why?
Sneha also said Shrien had criticised Anni's clothing and picked rows with her over nothing. He had even avoided sex on their wedding night.
One text message before the wedding from Anni had said: 'I don't want to marry him. I'm going to be unhappy for the rest of my life. One cannot even hug him. We have nothing in common.'
Another said: 'Want to cry myself to death.'
Sneha pointed out Anni had called off the wedding three times but each time Shrien had managed to persuade her to change her mind.
Other text messages, revealed to me and my astonished family for the first time, read: 'Crying every day… catastrophic and so much to do that I can't cope. I feel abandoned by everybody.
'Fighting a lot with Shrien. Told him I'm going home. Wish I never got engaged.
'I don't want to marry him. I'm going to be unhappy for the rest of my life. If I knew this I would not have got engaged.'
Sneha showed us more text messages which said: 'We are going to sort everything out but I still feel the same way.' Anni also said she hated Shrien: 'Hate him. I am not happy.' She talked several times about divorce.
It only made me feel sadder.
By now, such was the media interest in the case that Shrien himself went on record denying any involvement in Anni's death. 'How could anyone say I killed her?' he asked.
- TOMORROW: My revulsion at Shrien’s double life... and fears that Anni had learned the truth about her husband's sexuality
- Anni: A Father's Story is published by Mirror Books on Friday, priced £9.99. To order a copy please call Mirror Collection on 0845 143 0001 or visit www.mirrorcollection.co.uk£2 P&P UK applies
- The Hindocha family have asked that all the proceeds due to the family from the sale of this book be donated the charity: Anni's Memorial Fund
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